Why so many leaders do not see themselves as a true leader
There is so much information out there about what it takes to be a great leader, so why is it that we see so few of them?
The big problem I believe and am witnessing over and over again is that some leaders are not identifying and seeing themselves as a leader.
They have the position, the title, the paycheque and the team, yet inside they still let the 9-year-old child inside themselves direct their belief in their own abilities.
This is very common and if you resonate with this then I hope it helps you to know you are not alone. However, by not viewing yourself as a leader, and allowing the 9-year-old to lead instead, you are impacting on the results you can achieve for the business, your team and your own career goals. And more often than not, it’s not a positive impact.
So, how do you know if this is you? See if any of the points below resonate with you.
- Imposter syndrome – You feel that your peers and those above you are all smarter than you and that you are going to be found out. The voice in your head tells you that you are not good enough and self-doubt delays your decision making.
- Avoiding conflict – You stay clear of conflict in the fear of not knowing how to handle it and making the wrong call. Reassuring yourself by claiming ‘how could you know what really happened as you weren’t there?’
- Procrastination – You put off the stuff that really matters and you allow it to overwhelm you.
- Being busy – You stay in the weeds of the day-to-day to show you are needed and can add value. You wouldn’t know what to do with your time if you let go and handed it over to others.
- Control – You need to be in control, make the decisions for your team and have an understanding of everything that is going on.
It’s time to step into your identity
Your ‘identity’ is the key to being who you need to be in order to achieve your personal and professional goals.
You must change the way you think about yourself.
I’ve been there
I know this is possible as it’s exactly what I had to do. I started my own business 3 years ago and was running it with my old identity of the 14 year old girl in the third set of maths (I didn’t realise this at the time but looking back I can see this is what happened).
This meant I wasn’t putting myself out there, I wasn’t reaching the clients I really wanted to work with and I was very good at finding constant excuses as to why I wasn’t making that call or going to the networking event.
Luckily, my passion for the work I do wouldn’t accept this. So after reading more books and watching mastermind events the penny dropped as to why I wasn’t where I wanted to be.
I needed to adopt my new identity to run my business if I wanted it to be a success. I needed to be Joanna Howes, the award-winning coach, best-selling author and CEO. I said this out loud quite a few times and the mind-set shift was huge.
Standing in my identity of who I am today has transformed my business and I’m achieving my goals faster and easier than ever before. And having a lot more fun and joy along the way (with not a maths class in sight!).
Being a great leader is so much more than what you do. It’s who you are.
Own your leadership. See the world through your leadership eyes of who you are today. and not the child who just wanted to fit in and please people. Who you are is so important to your leadership style, the way you communicate and the way others react to you.
Honestly, this work is transformational. I’ve been there and I’ve witnessed others successfully go through this process too.
Don’t you think it’s time to find out how you can achieve your ultimate success – not only for your business but for yourself?
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